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Sugar Divorce, Relationship Pruning, Are you a Good Liar – 5 min Test, and the Monday Essay – Alkalising the Body. Plus Another Extract from Till the Fat Lady Slims
28 April 2014

Illness to Wellness Illness to Wellness

Plus some more fabulous updates from our Break the Habit ladies on Facebook who are following 'the programme'! And at the bottom - as promised, another extract from Till the Fat Lady Slims book - the summary of chapter 13 - what it's all about!

It’s amazing what a difference a week makes. A week ago I was fresh back from my yoga writing retreat in Devon and giving myself a sugar hangover with the blimmin’ ‘treat’ choccie egg (little one, honest!) we were all given by The Management for Easter. Gawd. When will I learn! One sugar hangover later (seriously – I’m such a lightweight now I hardly ‘do’ sugar any more!) and I’m back on my serious health kick in the run down to end of June deadline for our ‘Break the Habit’ challenges – see bottom of blog for info about that date.

SO – this week, here are a few more fabulous mentions about giving up the evil stuff. First, the Mail on Sunday magazine had another serialisation of the ‘I Quit Sugar’ excellent book – our facebook groups are often posting links to some of their pearls of wisdom. Then I saw this – now it’s not often I get to post a link to VOGUE magazine! But this excellent article includes gems like this, from a lady who’s lost two stone and is now much, much healthier and has fewer health problems. And importantly – fewer wrinkles. This may be why -

As for its effect on our faces: "There are several reasons too much sugar is harmful for your skin," says aesthetic doctor Mica Engel of London's Waterhouse Young Clinic. “In cases of glycation, excess glucose binds to the skin's youth proteins and turns them brittle and stiff. The surfaces of cells are effectively caramelised; the by-products of glycation accumulate in the body and skin constantly appears dull and aged."

Cell inflammation not only ages the skin; it depletes the stores of vitamins and minerals in your body, compromising your immune system. "It's not only the skin that suffers," continues Dr Engel. "There are other, more serious, issues presented by people with too much sugar in their bodies - circulatory problems, inflammation of the cartilages and joints [arthritis], eye problems [cataracts] and liver and kidney problems, to name a few…’

Do go here to read the whole Vogue article – it’s very, very interesting.

And if it helps just one of you embark upon a sugar divorce, then that’s great news. For me, mine began two years ago when I first saw Dr Robert Lustig’s excellent video, Sugar the Bitter Truth, and the Sixty Minutes programme ‘Is Sugar Toxic’ – if you know any seriously ill people, do watch that and pass it on – it could be the turning point they need.


Toxic relationships? – And it’s not just sugar that’s poison. I got shot of a very toxic relationship in my life this week – I won’t go into details as it is totally in the past now, but basically a cyber bully was getting in the way of some friends and me achieving our writing aims. And we had to part ways. So part ways we did. Spectacularly as it happens, she bowed out just as she conducted herself within the group, but then it was over.

What I found afterwards was that a huge cloud had lifted, one I didn’t even realise was hovering there, it had become so insidious over the months it had been happening since last summer. I’m a very patient person – as one of the other ladies told me, who promptly rejoined our gang once the Toxic One had departed. Turns out, toxic people just don’t deserve to be in your life.

But it’s funny, whilst I can make myself move on VERY quickly from things like that, others can’t and it fills your head and distracts you if you let it. Well, all I can say is that if you have anyone like that in your life, remember this –

- You only get treated how you ALLOW yourself to be treated

- You may let them go and move on WITHOUT needing them to agree that you are right

- If they are not going to change (and most won’t) the only thing that can change is how you deal with it

- And if you can be independent of the bad (or good) opinion of others, you’ll be a happier person and live a happier life.

Now, that’s easier when it’s not family. But if you can, try spending as little time as possible with that person. To find out how affected you are by toxic relationships, do a little exercise and jot down some of the things that currently try you. Things that bug you. That are ‘other people’s fault’. Can just dropping them from your life solve the issue? If you give up your need to be right?

Then write a list of whom you spend time with, and next to each of them, put a plus or a minus – do they leave you energised or do they leave you drained? What are there most of on your list, plusses or minuses? If it’s mostly minuses, you may have a reason why you spend your days feeling frustrated. Then maybe it’s time to get rid of a few of the minuses. Work out if there’s a way you can extricate that person/event/situation from your life. You don’t have to explain why – just be a little less available than you have been, and concentrate on YOU.

We all need balance – and we all deserve to be happy.

And the ONLY person who is with you your whole life through - is you. So take care of you, first and foremost (not withstanding infants or young kids of course, but even then, what you give out you get back, and that’s a whole ‘nother topic! Meanwhile, all I’d say is read ‘How to Talk so kids will Listen and Listen so Kids will Talk’ – it changed my whole way of dealing with young teenagers many years ago. And if you’re facing under 7’s, read Biology of Belief by Dr Robert Lipton, who explains some of the most fascinating info ever about how young children develop. It should be taught at all ante-natal classes in my opinion!)

BTW - my lovely QVC Yong Kim pal Ingrid Tarrant published a fab article in yesterday's Mail on Sunday - all about her own reaction to divorce and getting on without a toxic relationship in her life - read it online here.

Anyway, that’s the thought for the day from me! I don’t always get it right myself, but I’m a damn sight closer nowadays than ever before, so I’m pretty happy about me right now. Who I am and what I do. Losing weight is just one of the things on my list, and Till the Fat Lady Slims principles of Freedom Eating are helping me get back to basics on that, in the run up to the end of June. Hope to see you there!

And read this if pain is your problem – very, very true, and very useful! Thanks as usual to Vanda for the posts. Ten questions to help you get to the source of your chronic pain and heal.



Continued updates from our girls on the facebook groups –

Loved some of the fabulous updates this week, posted on the ‘Break the Habit BTU’ closed group on Facebook, upon new members joining. Some of the regulars re-introduced themselves – here’s just a selection – makes me very proud to have begun this supportive environment! –

Dawn Titmarsh‎ Break The Habit - BTU

26 April at 21:41 ·

Hi to all the new ladies you will find us a very friendly bunch and we will never judge you.
I joined the group in Feb I had already lost some weight through various diet clubs but started to struggle so gave up the clubs and doing it myself by following Debbie Flint’s book TTFLS - it takes a bit of getting used to but I am getting there. I also wanted to increase my exercise and water intake which I am now doing.
So ladies feel free to join in with us and ask anything you want and we will try and help you out with advice from our own experiences xx


Jo Brown ‎Break The Habit - BTU

26 April at 22:18 ·

I love the fact that we are getting more and more ladies joining all the time, how fab is that - I mean it just goes to show, long after the distant memory of New Years resolutions we can still keep going breaking habits or making new ones… I joined a little later, my challenges were to improve my work/life balance, increase my fitness/get back to running after a long term injury and boost my confidence after ending a long term relationship... all of which are on track and I even joined Rock Choir at the end of January thanks to this group. Enjoy the group and good luck with your challenges. Xx


Elaine Zena Feather ‎Break The Habit - BTU

· Browns Plains, Australia ·

Big warm welcome to all newcomers. At the moment I am in Oz so our morning is your night which makes it a bit difficult for me to keep up with everyone. I am here with my lovely daughter & her equally lovely partner & my gorgeous granddaughter. Will be home on May 24th. Have more good news on the weight front today and I am now 77.5 so doing really well! I have lipoedema too which makes losing weight very hard but with the love & support of all these wonderful people &, of course, our brilliant Debbie Flint, I am doing great. Since I arrived in Oz I have gone from 83 kg to 77.5
Hope everyone else is doing really well & looking after themselves! Big hugs to one & all xxxxx




Other news -


- 15 Foods A Nutritionist Refuses To Eat – you’ll be surprised at some of them!


- Are you a good liar – take this five second test and find out!


- 26 Tweaks To Help You Lose Weight & Feel Great – some very good tips!


- And don’t forget on my QVC Blog there’s always a little Back to You update too and some funnies! Go here. This week including 15 habits of healthy couples, more BTU updates, and several links about the importance of sleep.


Lots below about getting on our Facebook group, Back to You QVC, about how to take part in our challenge, and don’t forget to add your own update! Plus the new series of the hour long show will be beginning again weekly on QVC UK in September.

Next week’s Monday Update – sauerkraut – alternative pro-biotics! And news of how to get a free download of the mini version of my book.

Hugs till next time! And don’t forget the Monday Essay below – on the vital importance of alkalising the body! And as promised, another extract from Till the Fat Lady Slims at the bottom of the page!

Hugs and best wishes



Joining In

- Our Challenge Party date is Sunday 29th June, (in Surrey) it’s still not too late to share your own precious ‘before pics’. Do come join us! And if you’ve got a ShareStory you’d like to feature on here and you’re not on facebook, just email me This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.. All the links to the groups are below.

- Don’t forget if you’re a member of Back to You QVC Group or of the closed group Break the Habit BTU, to give us your Monday update on facebook!

- Go here to read the Back to You QVC Group updates and to join.

- Go here to request to join the new CLOSED Break the Habit – BTU Group.

- If you’d like to see my own Break the Habit Challenge, it’s here.

- And for more info about Freedom Eating – click here for Till the Fat Lady Slims (2002) on Amazon. !


THE MONDAY ESSAY - Alkalising your Body.



Many moons ago I went to a Tony Robbins seminar, after following his CD pack bought on QVC. There he talked at length about alkalising your body, and recommended reading Dr Robert Young (google him) who knew all about its effects on the body. In years to come I loved finding out more, including the explanations that –


- Cancer has to have an acidic environment, if it’s alkaline it cannot survive.


- Green foodstuffs generally alkalise your body, as can slightly acidic drinks like lemon juice - ironically – all to do with the stomach reacting to it with an alkaline reaction


- Yet alkaline water just gets swallowed up in the pH 2 acidity of the stomach contents. (there used to be some debate about this as some recommend alkaline water to alkalise, but I say lemon juice every time.)


- If your body is alkaline it can spend its energy on repairing itself rather than on fixing the pH


- And amazingly, that you can turn your body acid in a heartbeat, by getting annoyed etc.


All fascinating stuff, and worth more investigation, especially if you’re ill. I do believe that’s one of the reasons why diets heavy in plant stuffs work so well. As the old adage goes – ‘eat little, and often, mainly plants’ – there’s a lot to be said for it. Hence my interest in macrobiotics **


Anyway, on the Break the Habit BTU facebook group, a number of the girls have decided to do a week drinking lemon juice. For more reasons as to why, read this -


It’s a great way to start the day and after all, it can’t hurt, can it?


If you feel separate and alone in your quest for better health, just join one of our groups – details above. The closed members group, Break the Habit is the one where the girls share all their intimate problems and secrets and give each other amazing support – don’t be shy, come join us.


And in the meantime, do please go google ‘benefits of alkalising your body’ – maybe it’s the next best thing you can do in your quest for better health. Alongside exercising more. And eating less, etc etc! Lol.






** can you come to a one day class near Dorking, Surrey on 29th June? Marlene Watson Tara will be talking us through macrobiotics as a way of life, including cooking lunch and discussing the amazing health benefits of the plant-cased way of eating. If so, email me This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.. It’s 10-4pm, and it’s £75. We have five places left only, at time of writing! Would love you to come along, please do. (And if you want to make a weekend of it, then do stay locally overnight and come to our ‘Back to You/Break the Habit facebook groups get together / joint book launch for Hawaiian Retreat, the third in my trilogy, on the Sunday in the same hall in Wotton! RH56QQ)






Taken from the book Till the Fat Lady Slims available on Amazon.


Here are the principles in a nutshell – taken from the summary chapter, Ch 13.


Recap - The Key Points to Food Freedom


1- Only eat when you're physically hungry.


2- Only eat till you're satisfied, not till you're full.


3- Give the food your full attention.


4- Think about what your body really needs, not what your brain really wants.


5- You can do this even if you're on a diet.


6- If you want something 'bad', go ahead and eat it. Or maybe if during one meal, you end up overeating slightly, just don't beat yourself up about it afterwards.


7 - Be an observer, not a judge.


8- Don't set yourself up to fail by having too many rules. Forget every rule surrounding food.


9- Listen to how your body responds to the food in your stomach and learn how to make a good match. Learn to trust your body.


10- Don't forget the water thing.


11- Keep listening.


l2- Accept whatever shape and weight your body wants to be.


13- Don't let others, or your own thoughts, get you down.


14- Stand guard at the door of your mind.


Want to Read More?


Here’s the link to the full eBook,


If you do enjoy it, and find this system works for you, do please kindly add your review to this Amazon page!



Full length book contains




The Secret Food Prisoner




Where it all began.


Chapter One- In The World of the Fat


How long have you lived like this?


Chapter Two- In The World of the Slim


The first steps to ‘unlearning’ all the beliefs that have made you so fat.


Chapter Three- Ten Pounds of Lard


Don’t let the scales decide if you’re going to have a good day.


Chapter Four- Do What I Do


Water and the body’s many cries for help.


Chapter Five- Suffering the Slings and Arrows


You don’t have to be fat to have a food problem


Chapter Six - A Partner in Crime


The perils of contentment.


Chapter Seven- Ecstasy on a Plate


For food lovers everywhere - how to get the most out of your meal.


Chapter Eight- Hunger Know Thyself


Two more keys to help you escape from food prison.


Chapter Nine- What They Say


Even your children can break free from the pattern, if you do it first.


Chapter Ten- More From the Fat Lady


The biography continued - Bridget Jones eat your heart out.


Chapter Eleven- Emotional Eating


The reasons I eventually ballooned.


Chapter Twelve- The Whole Identity Thing


Powerful visualisations - reclaim your natural birthright to be slim.


Chapter Thirteen- Food Freedom in a Nutshell


How you can finally get out of food prison- just do it.


Chapter Fourteen- Binge Management


Breakthrough time! The system that recognizes we’re human. This is your emergency routine





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